Comments on: Authentic trust http://www.jackzen.com/2005/10/05/authentic-trust/ ...........................just noticing Fri, 09 Jan 2009 13:12:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: garnet http://www.jackzen.com/2005/10/05/authentic-trust/comment-page-1/#comment-369 garnet Tue, 11 Oct 2005 04:26:38 +0000 http://www.jackzen.com/?p=204#comment-369 Juicy thoughts here. Authentic trust is certainly fragile, and prone to violation, however subtle. But as a goal or ideal it's an important distiction from transactional trust. The transactional weeds need to be diligently pulled from the authentic garden of trust. Juicy thoughts here. Authentic trust is certainly fragile, and prone to violation, however subtle. But as a goal or ideal it’s an important distiction from transactional trust. The transactional weeds need to be diligently pulled from the authentic garden of trust.

]]> By: Nick http://www.jackzen.com/2005/10/05/authentic-trust/comment-page-1/#comment-368 Nick Sat, 08 Oct 2005 07:50:43 +0000 http://www.jackzen.com/?p=204#comment-368 There is a transactional element, however subtle, implicit in every extension of trust. The violation we feel may have more to do with misjudgment than commitment. There is a transactional element, however subtle, implicit in every extension of trust. The violation we feel may have more to do with misjudgment than commitment.

]]> By: jack http://www.jackzen.com/2005/10/05/authentic-trust/comment-page-1/#comment-367 jack Fri, 07 Oct 2005 13:19:11 +0000 http://www.jackzen.com/?p=204#comment-367 That is a great question. If we say that authentic trust is a commitment to another's freedom, is the violation that we fail in our commitment or that they fail to act with the freedom they have? Or both? The idea of violating trust is usually the domain of transactional trust where we trade our support of another in exchange for their compliance to some ofour specific spoken or unspoken expectations or standards. With these violations, we take back trust and think about returning it only if we're convinced that the other can and will act in a predictable way. That is a great question. If we say that authentic trust is a commitment to another’s freedom, is the violation that we fail in our commitment or that they fail to act with the freedom they have? Or both?

The idea of violating trust is usually the domain of transactional trust where we trade our support of another in exchange for their compliance to some ofour specific spoken or unspoken expectations or standards. With these violations, we take back trust and think about returning it only if we’re convinced that the other can and will act in a predictable way.

]]> By: Nick http://www.jackzen.com/2005/10/05/authentic-trust/comment-page-1/#comment-366 Nick Fri, 07 Oct 2005 07:01:35 +0000 http://www.jackzen.com/?p=204#comment-366 Ahh, but what happens to authentic trust when it's violated? Ahh, but what happens to authentic trust when it’s violated?

]]> By: jack http://www.jackzen.com/2005/10/05/authentic-trust/comment-page-1/#comment-365 jack Wed, 05 Oct 2005 23:12:32 +0000 http://www.jackzen.com/?p=204#comment-365 It may be the hardest thing we do in relationship; although the alternative is relationship based on the need to control the other. The freedom piece starts to feel a little better if we think about being committed to the other's freedom to learn, grow, connect .... It may be the hardest thing we do in relationship; although the alternative is relationship based on the need to control the other.

The freedom piece starts to feel a little better if we think about being committed to the other’s freedom to learn, grow, connect ….

]]> By: Daniella http://www.jackzen.com/2005/10/05/authentic-trust/comment-page-1/#comment-364 Daniella Wed, 05 Oct 2005 23:00:09 +0000 http://www.jackzen.com/?p=204#comment-364 Jack, It is an enticing idea but can it be practice in a relationship taking place in the real world? It would require a person to surround himself with trustworthy individuals, making a decision to exercise trust no matter what? I am not sure if I have ever experienced this trust not even as a child. I think it wold be liberating, it would eliminate a lot of BS. Jack,

It is an enticing idea but can it be practice in a relationship taking place in the real world? It would require a person to surround himself with trustworthy individuals, making a decision to exercise trust no matter what? I am not sure if I have ever experienced this trust not even as a child. I think it wold be liberating, it would eliminate a lot of BS.

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