The art of not presuming
It’s interesting how we become part of people’s lives and how they become a part of ours. It raises the question of how we add value to each other’s lives.
I think the key is to presume nothing and resist comparing relationships in ways that cause us to make too many assumptions. Seeing each other as we are, not as we think we are.
What’s welcome for one person is intrusive for another. What’s valuable for one is not for another.
March 4th, 2006 13:02
I totally agree with you. However, it is very hard to get rid of assumptions. As you say, it is an Art.
March 4th, 2006 13:04
I think it takes asking a lot of questions.
March 4th, 2006 14:30
I’ve heard this called, the story you tell yourself about……
I like the work of Byron Katie that helps one inquire into these assumptions and the stories you tell yourself. Her work helps me to stay focussed on a few key questions. Very helpful.